“Numerous studies have shown that when a boy has a secure attachment to his mother ,he is psychologically healthier ,stronger ,and even braver.He will have higher self-esteem,do better in school,and have lower rates of mental and behavioural disorders.” Meg Meeker
“Attachment is not just a good idea; it is the law.” Lannon (1996)
“…In the United States there is even a pathos of inverted emphasis: the goal is not to grow old, but to remain young; not to mature away from Mother, but to cleave to her.” Mothers, Sons & Lovers by Michael Gurian
“When a child takes on a parent’s burden-whether consciously or unconsciously-he or she misses out on the experience of being given to, and can have difficulty receiving from relationships later in life.” Mark Wolynn ‘It didn’t start with you’
“Unresolved issues in a man’s relationship with his mother are profound sources of trouble in a man’s life. In studies and surveys done by psychologists and researchers over the last decade, among them psychologists Sam Osh- person, Dan Kiley, and Ken Druck, psychotherapist Anne Grizzle, and researchers Carole Klein and Shere Hite, we have discovered that the majority of men in this culture have unresolved problems concerning their mothers. Some of these involve a mother’s abuse, neglect, abandonment, or impingement on a son’s healthy individuation. Others have to do with the father’s emotional and/or physical absence, which affects the mother-son relationship positively. Whatever their source, the problems invade the mother’s nurturance of her son.” Michael Gurian
“As late twentieth-century males, men of our generation were brought up in homes by individuals who loved us but who were missing some essential knowledge about raising us and were not supported by their culture in raising us completely. I soon discovered that my family’s convictions about raising sons were much like those of most families in our culture.” Michael Gurian
“…because the great lessons all come from home.” Meg Meeker
“I routinely frustrate moms by responding with advice for them, not about how to parent, but about how to take care of themselves, because I have learned a profound truth over my twenty-five years listening to mothers and kids: If you aren’t happy, your kids won’t be.” Meg Meeker
“My wife loves me ,but my mom is my biggest fan .” Meg Meeker
“…the importance of a son receiving a “blessing” from his father. This occurs when a father communicates to his son that who he is as a man is acceptable and pleasing to him. Some fathers give this blessing to their sons, and some don’t. If a son receives it, he feels strong and self-confident. He learns to like himself because he knows that his father respects him. If a son doesn’t feel that he gets this approval from his father, he will drive himself crazy trying to prove to himself (and subconsciously, to his father) that the man he is and the work he produces are worthy of his approval.”
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